Light and Frothy People Part 1

We have all met them at some point in our lives, almost everywhere you go they are there, every town and city has them and every church has more than its fair share of them – what am I referring to? Light and frothy people.

These are the people in life who seem to give the outward appearance of being friendly and jovial, but there seems to be something not quite right about them. Their mannerisms seem to be false, as if they are just putting on a show. You can tell that these people’s expressions and mannerisms have simply been learned from other people – from people who have genuine charisma. Therefore, these people are trying their best in their own strength to be something that they are not, because they cannot draw upon something that they do not have. They put on a mask, a façade which obscures their true feelings and personality.

People in the world do not want to spend time with people who are miserable and depressed, they are no fun and they just talk about their problems all of the time, they are boring and depressing to listen to. People want to be around lively and dynamic individuals who will inspire them and motivate them. Charismatic people attract others to them, whilst gaining the favour, kindness and respect of others.

There is a saying that goes, “you can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can’t fool all of the people all of the time.” Some people may be fooled by your façade, whereas other people will be able to tell that your personality is just false. Putting on a façade in order to gain other people’s acceptance can have the opposite effect: on a conscious level you respond to the person’s smile, friendliness and cheerful demeanour. But on a subconscious level, you do not have the sense of trust, comfort, security, peace and joy within yourself that normally formulates your response to such a warm and friendly personality. This can lead to a response of rejection and mistrust as the other person wonders why you have to put on a façade and what it is that you want from them.

There are those people who seem to be so full of life, when you spend time with them, you cannot help but feel uplifted while you speak to these people. Not only that, but you also find that you feel uplifted for a little while after you have been with them, anything from a few hours to a few days. People cannot help but notice these things and it becomes something they want for themselves.

Unfortunately, without being able to discern spiritual things, they equate this favour with what they perceive to be associated factors, such as talking loudly, attractive possessions, certain catch-phrases, certain brands of clothing, particular anecdotes, etc. The neurotic believes that if he can replicate any or all of these identified factors, then he too will be able to create that same degree of attractiveness that will bring him favour with others.

People disguise their feelings of sadness and loneliness because they do not want the world to know their true feelings. These people learn very quickly that in order to fit into society and be accepted by others, you have to adapt to the environment and somehow make an effort to change the way that you are. Happiness draws the right kind of attention, where as, sadness often draws the wrong kind of attention.